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Happy Birthday Queenie!!

8 Jun

Yesterday was the Queen’s Birthday public holiday. (For those of you outside Australia and the Commonwealth who might be wondering why we have a holiday for the  birthday of the Queen of England,  it’s not because we’re overly patriotic. Remember that we’ll have any excuse for a holiday here. We even have a holiday for a horse race in November.  Anyway, the actual Queen’s Birthday is in April. The June date was the birthday of a long forgotten king, whose birthday was just a more suitable middle of year for an extra holiday, so that is where it has stayed)….

Quite appropriately for a day when we remember our links with the mother country, it was very wet. And freezing cold. And we all have the sniffles.

So we stayed home. And there wasn’t really much else to do, except, of course, hold a birthday party for the queen.

It was BC’s idea. He’s really taken to the idea of having pretend birthday parties lately. We seem to have parties of various complexity at least once a week. But he was particularly taken by the thought that we were having a holiday for the Queen and her birthday. So the party preparations began in earnest.

We made a cake. We blew up balloons. We invited the teddy bears.  We played pass the (royal) parcel. We played pin the crown on the Queenie and musical statues. We sang her happy birthday and blew out the candles. BC even made her a little present.

She didn’t make an appearance, but I am sure if she had time to receive an invitation she would have been here for sure. It was a huge success. BC won the pass the parcel and is still enjoying his new crayons. We think Aunty J might have cheated with the pin the crown on the queen, but we gave her a prize anyway. The musical statues was a bit of a fizzer as BC couldn’t stop laughing and little Bean didn’t stop screaming in complaint whenever the music was turned off. But it was still fun.

And we had two little boys who went to bed very tired and happy at the party’s end.

Then late last night, once they were sleeping, as I was trawling the blogosphere, I came across these fabulous crowns.

BetterThanNormal reversible crowns

It seemed far too coincidental that I’d discover these on the Queens birthday, so once I’ve determined that they can be sent to Australia, hopefully I am going to buy one each for the boys. You can order them in a wide range of colours and designs and with your own children’s names on them. Best of all, they are being made by Daniel’s mum over at BetterThanNormal, to help pay for his therapies.

And there’s nothing better than getting a package in the mail.

I am still not sure if I’m going to be able to resist telling BC when the crowns arrive that they are actually a thank-you present from the queen for her fabulous birthday party ;-).


8 Jun

Yesterday, I posted about BC’s saliva control and mentioned that he doesn’t have very good awareness about when his lips are closed tightly.

Well today, I can definitely verify that he knows for sure when his teeth are closed tightly – or to be more precise clamped tightly around something. Usually his brother’s leg. Or ear. Or Arm.

Yes. We have a biting problem in our house.

To be fair to be BC, he didn’t start it. Little Bean has been a biter from a long way back. He started biting pretty much as soon as he got teeth. And aside from one spectacularly embarrassing incident a while back when he bit the finger of a friend’s new born baby that he was rather jealous to see me holding, he usually reserves his biting for his big brother. And occasionally his dad when he won’t get off the computer to play with him.

It’s works rather well with his dad. He moves impressively fast once he’s been chomped.

As far as the 2 boys go, for a while now, there’s been a rather familiar sequence of events that results in a biting frenzy. It starts with Little Bean taking something that BC is playing with. BC lunges at Little Bean with his most effective form of defence – the giant bear hug. Held in that tight embrace, Little Bean has no real option but to take a good grip of the nearest body part he can see with his fangs. Then of course, there are tears on both sides.

It also usually ends with Little Bean giving a spirited and heartfelt repetition of one of his favourite phrases ‘sorry, sorry,  so sorry’. It’s hard to ever stay cross with him when he says that in his cute little voice.

However, BC has, in very recent times, upped the ante by turning the tables and started to initiate the biting.

I don’t know why. Maybe because he’s seen how effective if it is when he gets bitten. Maybe he’s figured that if it’s OK for Little Bean then it’s OK for him too.

We’ve discussed with him that biting is not allowed in our house by ANYONE. We’ve also discussed that as the big brother he has to set the standards for acceptable behaviour and THAT comment that I can hear coming from my own mother’s mouth ‘you’re older! You should know better’.

I hate the biting – from either of them. But I’m not quite sure how to stop it.

I’ve consulted my ‘toddler bible’ about how best to deal with the biting Bean and have been informed that it’s “an intentional experimental/defensive/aggressive/emotional action amongst toddlers” (whatever that means).  The bible also tells me that it ‘tends to disappear over age but’ (and here’s where BC comes into it as well) ‘preschool children and even older children sometimes bite when antagonised’.

But there wasn’t really any further constructive advice that’s helped me. Apart from reminding parents that it doesn’t ‘require biting back which is demeaning for the parent and teaches the toddler that biting is OK if you get mad enough’.

Really? Was my response to that piece of advice. You really need to tell parents that’s wrong? Guess I get a few brownie points at least for that solution never having entering my mind!

But apart from telling me what I shouldn’t do, the bible  doesn’t tell me what should I do?

BC has never been a naughty child and aside from the biting, little Bean is hardly a mini menace, so I don’t really have an armoury of effective discipline techniques up my sleeves.

I’m considering getting muzzles for them both, but would appreciate some more practical advice is anyone has any!


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